Focus on Others, Not on Yourself

By Lisa Buldo

At the lowest point in my life, after my divorce in 1999, I suffered so much. I cried for what seemed to be a year straight! I remember one day when I woke up crying. I started talking with the Lord. I asked Him, Lord, how can I stop thinking about this?

I couldn't stop thinking about how much I missed and wanted to be with my ex-husband again. And the Lord spoke to me so clearly and said "Listen, listen, listen, speak slowly, and focus on helping others now." I was a little confused. I thought, "What about ME?" He didn't answer that one. He just told me to focus on others and to help them now. It was at that moment that I believe He birthed in me this "Healing" ministry. He placed a passion in my heart for nutrition, but also His Word in order that I would help others in the area of emotions as well.

At that time, I worked as a Legal Secretary in a law firm, and I did personal injury work. I dealt with most of our clients. They liked me a lot, and trusted me. Every time they had a doctor's appointment, they would have to call and tell me about it, and I would make a note in their file. Some of them had so much pain. Not only physical pain, but many times emotional pain as well. I would listen to them, show compassion, and then as I got to know the Lord, I would speak with many of them about the Lord too, and just encourage them. I couldn't help it. I just did it anyway. They would tell me how much it helped them, and I always felt better. This was, by the way, during the time I was suffering the most.

The point here is that we can stay focused on ourselves, or we can shift our thinking from ourselves to someone else. When is the last time you did something for someone else just because? Not expecting anything in return, but just to help them? I have truly come to learn that there is nothing more rewarding than to know that you have helped someone. It just makes you feel good inside. That's spiritual. God calls us to be servants to one another. We are supposed to help others and serve one another.

When you're going through a tough time, it's easy to stay focused on yourself. Most teenagers are usually self-absorbed and focused on themselves. I was like that as a teen too. I had my own agenda, and wanted to do what I wanted to do. Were you like that too? There's something in a teen that is curious and fearless and wants to explore the world. They don't have any idea of the dangers lurking out there. As parents, we want to protect them, but we realize that we can only do so much, and we MUST trust God for the rest.

The sad part is that many adults are the same way. They are focused on self. That is why there are so many divorces. If both spouses would be unselfish, there would be so many less problems in marriage.

If we want to have successful relationships, we must learn to focus on the needs of others. There is a book I read a few years ago, and I would highly recommend it to YOU and to everyone who would like to improve their relationships with people. It would also be extremely beneficial for kids of high school age. It's called "How to Win Friends and Influence People."

It is written by Dale Carnegie. This book is about completely taking the focus off of yourself and focusing on the other person you are speaking with. This book really helps to prepare you to have successful relationships with people in your life. It is one of my absolute personal favorites.

You want to be liked? You want good friends? You want a good marriage? You want good business relationships? Then find out what the other person is all about. What do THEY like? What do THEY want? Don't make it about you.

Make it about them. After you walk away, they will say to themselves or someone else, "What a nice person!" (Yes, they will be talking good about you!)

Additionally, when you focus on others, you don't have time to sit there feeling sorry for yourself. God wants you to focus on helping others. You will come to learn that as you help others, you actually help yourself! Your self-esteem goes up, and you just feel happier.

(This excerpt from It Can Be Done is reprinted with permission from the author, Lisa Buldo).

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Lisa Buldo is the "Victory Health Coach" and the author of "IT CAN BE DONE! You Can Live in Victory 24/7," which defines how you can live victoriously in every area of your life, from your relationships, to your health, to your finances. For more information, please visit Lisa Buldo.

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Opportunity

By Joan McCall

You've spent several years studying and praying for a new life. Old negative friends have been replaced by supportive ones who think as you do. Affirmations and spiritual treatments have enabled you to create the kind of life you always wanted. You don't live in "Scare City" anymore; you are earning real money for the first time. Work is interesting and becoming more so every day. Life is good. Now what?

The spiritual work you have done has caused such radical changes in your life that you feel you are no longer the same person. Could that really be true? Ram Dass said, "If you think you've arrived spiritually, go visit your parents for a week." Once there, you will find out if they can still press your buttons or rattle your chains? Don't be disappointed if they can. The people closest to us in life offer us the greatest opportunities for spiritual growth. Maybe you left home because you felt you couldn't grow in that atmosphere. Maybe you used to think it was a mistake that you got dropped into that family. It was no mistake. You ended up right where you meant to be.

We don't often look at our challenges in this light, but our most intimate relationships are the yardstick by which we can measure how far we have come and how far we have yet to go. I believe that the family we grew up in was the right one. Perhaps we chose to join that particular set of people to work out certain lessons we framed for ourselves before we came here. We can't know for certain, but if we are able to resolve the issues we've had with our closest and dearest, once and for all, we can surely say that we have grown spiritually. However, that won't be the end of the challenges. We will always create lessons for ourselves. Why? We are perpetually in the process of "arriving" because we are infinite beings, living in eternity. We are already perfect and complete at our essence, but our spiritual purpose is to continue to grow in awareness of that truth and to know ourselves in ever-greater ways.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Rev. Joan McCall is a Science of Mind minister, teacher and practitioner. She is also a prolific sreenwriter and has starred as an actress on Broadway and in motion pictures. For more information about her Center in Los Angeles, go to www.cacsl.org or visit her IMDB page by clicking here.

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Sustainable Community Energy

"The earth is but one Country, and mankind its citizens." --Baha'u'llah

In my post of august 19 – on my Dream blog - the subject of using technological alternatives were briefly discussed. These alternatives will not only create sustainable communities, but will also protect the environment. Using these alternatives will create employment and improve everyone’s quality of life.

For example in my home community of Fort Simpson, which is located in the Northwest Territories of Canada, would be an ideal location in which to implement the use of geothermal power. Fort Simpson is located in the best area in all of North America for using geothermal power. Geothermal power is used extensively in northern British Columbia and Manitoba, making it a well established and proven source of energy.

In Fort Simpson we use fuel oil for heating and generating electrical power. Using oil is the most expensive way to heat buildings and produce electricity. For example the cost of using oil for heating and electricity in Fort Simpson is about ten million dollars a year. Using geothermal power would reduce this oil bill to zero. The use of geothermal power would reduce the pollution caused by using oil by ninety percent.

So why are we not using geothermal power in Fort Simpson?

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Healthy Body, Mind and Spirit

Safe Food Storage Will Reduce Food Waste and Save Money. By Mark gold.

By knowing how to store foods correctly and how long they will remain safe, one can preserve the quality of the food, particularly the nutritional value, texture and flavor. One can also help to prevent food-borne illnesses caused by harmful bacteria by engaging in safe food storage practices, and it is an easy way to save money too! The storage time is greatly affected by the quality of the food at the time of purchase, so always try to get the freshest foods available, remembering that the freshness never increases with storage. An easy tip is to select the perishable items last and put them in the refrigerator or freezer as soon as you get home. Try not to buy food in quantities that you can't eat in a reasonable amount of time, and always rotate your stored foods, this will help to ensure that you consume the older items first.

Use the following general guidelines for safe food storage:

In the Refrigerator Always keep the temperature at 40 degrees F or below, try using a thermometer in different parts of the refrigerator to monitor the temperature. Foods like poultry, fish, meats, eggs, milk and other dairy products should be stored in the coldest sections of the refrigerator. Always store foods in airtight wraps or containers, this helps to prevent foods from drying out, as well as preventing odors or flavors from transferring from one food to another. Wrap raw meats, fish and poultry thoroughly, making sure that no juices can drip from them (this can contaminate other foods). Avoid using bags that are not made for storage. Leave enough space in the refrigerator to allow air to circulate freely, this will allow foods to be adequately cooled Remember that refrigeration does not prevent the growth of harmful bacteria, it only slows them down.

In the Freezer Always maintain a temperature of 0 degrees F or below, quality of food will deteriorate at higher temperatures. Freeze items in moisture proof wraps or containers, freezer burn will occur if the packaging is torn or has holes in it. Always thaw foods in the refrigerator; this will help to control bacteria growth. Food can be refrozen if it is partially thawed, however this may lower the quality, but combination dishes like casseroles, soups and stews should not be refrozen. It is very helpful if frozen foods are labeled properly, include the type of food, the weight and the date to easily find identify them.

In the Pantry Keep the pantry dark, cool and dry, try to keep the temperature between 50 and 70 degrees F. Many pantry items have a long shelf life, but only buy what you can realistically expect to use within the recommended storage times. Store foods in glass, plastic or metal containers, this will help to keep them from deteriorating in the pantry. Clean the pantry periodically to remove food particles. Food should be stored in the coolest cabinets, as far away as possible from the dishwasher, water heater or stove.

You can eat healthier and get more enjoyment out of your foods, while at the same time saving money just by using safe food storage techniques. You can also increase the shelf life of all of your foods and save even more money by using an exciting new breakthrough in food preservation called eggstrafresh®. It is scientifically proven to dramatically reduce oxidation and retain moisture. Oxidation and moisture loss are two leading factors that foster bacteria, mold, nasty odors and rapid food spoilage. eggstrafresh® also improves the texture, taste, natural color and flavor of almost all of your foods. Just visit http://www.eggstrafresh.com to find out more about this wonderful new product.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Mark Gold has more than 27 years of experience in the Food and Beverage Industry. He is also the head of Business Development for C-5 Biotechnologies, LLC.

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